Be Present

Every day is a gift. It’s a cliché, but it’s true. I believe the ultimate holiday gift is today, this moment, hour, minute and second.
A close family friend recently lost their 19 year old child to a gun accident. I am deeply saddened from this tragic incident. I am also perplexed and left with many questions: How can it be over? 19 years? Is this fair? Is this right? Prior to this loss, I thought I knew a lot about life. But after this experience, I’m left with the feeling of confusion. It’s a scary feeling, walking around feeling like I know close to nothing.
Although I have lost my sense of confidence-which was actually false confidence, I’ve gained a sense of freedom and desire to learn. Instead of walking into interactions with the attitude of “I already know what you are going to say, what you are thinking and what you will do”; I walk in with more of a blank canvas wanting to learn with open eyes, ears and heart.
But I am human. I forget. I go back to my old habit of operating on autopilot, distracted with my thoughts. When this happens and I am aware of it, I simply note it, take a breath and come back to the present moment. Every inhale is an opportunity to fully take in the present moment with your ears, nose, mouth, skin and eyes. While some experiences are more pleasurable than others, if you choose to distract yourself from the difficult times with thoughts, food, drinks or drugs, it will become a pattern not only during the hard times but the good times as well.
How much can you taste your food? Can you feel the cold air, rain and sun? Can you see the clouds, stars and moon? How connected can you be with the person in front of you?
Holiday tip #3-be present. Cherish this moment, this day, this gift.
Happy Holidays all!
Namaste, Nee

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